There’s two things to consider here:

1- How are you doing as individuals?

If your mindset feels tested, energy is low, confidence is down etc, you might look to your Co-Founder for reassurance and this can evolve into a checking-in habit from one or both sides; does that sound familiar?

Or perhaps something has happened in either of your personal lives that means one of you wants to feel more attached or secure.

2- How is the business doing?

If there’s challenges or stresses, people often think the best solution is to be in control. To feel in control you need to know what your Co-Founder is doing, and so the checking-in habit forms.

It might come from a positive place of support or a joint decision to really rally together. But it can be hard to release that desire to check in once it becomes a pattern.

When you’ve answered those two q’s, ask yourself, how do you want this to run between you? How do you want to be accountable as partners and have oversight over each other’s tasks? Understand WHY that matters to you and the impact it would have on you and the business. 

Then what feels right for you? Is this a proactive, positive conversation with your Co-Founder about better ways to work together? And what’s your role here to bring about change, how will you take responsibility to evolve your own headspace and behaviour around this?

If the feelings of not being trusted and the self doubt still come up after you’ve worked on the above, they might be connected to triggers beyond the ‘checking in’ habits and deserve being explored deeper.

You’ve got this! This is an experience all Co-Founders go through and know you have the ability to change it for the better.